"Everybody knows the pain of getting what we don't want: saints, sinners, winners, losers. I feel gratitude that someone saw the truth and pointed out that we don't suffer this kind of pain because of our personal inability to get things right."
— Pema Chodron, The Places That Scare You, p. 18
Most of us will never be able to see the goodness of losing and loss. As we are constantly told and reminded that winning is everything. But in Taoism fortune and misfortune are considered two sides of the same coin. Usually when someone loses they also win but what they win is not always apparent as its not what they are looking at they are stuck looking at the loss. And every winner is also a loser but they are so consumed with thier spoils that they don't see what they have lost.
For example lets say a person wins American Idol. sure they win but they also lose in their creative freedom as American Idol wants a specific sound and look for its winners. Where if a person comes in second they can option to get a contract with another company and have more creative freedom such as Chris Daugherty did.
Another example was about a man who won the lottery. A few months later he was found penniless and dead and it was later determined that his girlfriend killed him and ran off with the money and her lover.
Another example was about a man who won the lottery. A few months later he was found penniless and dead and it was later determined that his girlfriend killed him and ran off with the money and her lover.
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